One day I was just sitting  in the bank of river Ganges, in Reshikesh. I  was looking at the sunset , gentle wind  was touching my face, the voice of the river, my whole body was revitalizing.  I could hear singing of the birds. And I was just wondering what's these all, isn't it love?  When I looked at the sunset, it was like sun was smiling to me and talking to me, filling my each and every cell with it's rejuvenating  cosmic rays. And I thought this is all the love , the unconditional love of the nature. How much Mother nature loves us. The sun, the river Ganges , song of the birds, the gentle wind. It was all same for everyone,  nature was loving everyone. Nature didn't felt he is bad or he is good so I won't love him or love her.  Mother Nature was equal to everyone. But we all had the power to choose . Either we could choose those beautiful nature's creation as a normal phenomenon or we could  see it as  the love, the blessings of Mother nature for us. And from that beautiful experience I learned  how to love. Like I said Nature was same for  everyone present there, nature was not biased.  
Then  I thought  when we say I love you to someone , is it really we love that person?  
Or we love the ideas, character or qualities of that person.  For an example A boy loves his girlfriend. Is he loving her or her qualities, the way she treats him. Suppose She begins to act adversely to her boyfriend . Now the boy also become furious  and start reacting adversely and it ends into a break up.
So was it really love between boy and girl or they were just the needs of each other?  When there is a need, there is a selfish mean, which can be  physical, emotional or anything. Take a example of a mother . She loves her child unconditionally. Even if her child is a criminal, she will not stop loving him because she loves him, not his qualities, character or his actions. This is a matter of deep self introspection. We should learn to love from the nature.  Nature will teach us to love ourselves. The day we will totally accept our own selves , the day we will love our own selves unconditionally, than we can love everyone unconditionally. Because since there is a need or conditions in love, it becomes attachment  and attachment brings expectations and when expectations are not full fill it brings anger and hatred. Expectations bring controlling in love, we try to impose our own beliefs, ideas on others and it spreads irritation in other's heart. 
And when we starts to seeing ourselves as a separate identity from gross world for example feeling your own body but you know that you are not this body, this body is yours . When you are happy , remembering who is actually feeling this happiness, is he me or just an experience which I'm experiencing through this body,  because real me is always in an even minded state . When you are eating , remembering who is actually feeling this taste, is he really my real self or just a gratification of my bodily senses because this food is for this body, my real self doesn't feel duality of hunger and thirst . When you are sad, self introspecting, is he really I who is experiencing this sadness or just an experience due to changing in external circumstance, because my real self is always in a blissful state. 
When you start realizing that you are not just a mortal being who always get affected by the duality of the world than you will start truly loving yourself and your surroundings.  It will be the time when you will realize that you are self illuminated with unconditional love and you don't need it from outside. And when you will realize this, you will start to create the external circumstances by your powerful  thoughts. So always ask yourself  is he/she my real self who is experiencing good or bad or just the creation of my mind. 
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